So we've gotten past the ugly part of fighting. As a parent, sometimes you have to step back and let your child go. Thinking back to when she was little, you have so much control. You have to keep them safe, most important, but you can "steer" them in the direction that you feel is the best.
But man when they become young adults it is a whole new story. They know everything and you couldn't possibly tell them different. So right now, we're just sitting back crossing our fingers hoping she will figure out what is really the right decision for her and not mess up too badly!